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“A wedding is a party, not a performance. If at the end of the day, you married the one you love then everything went perfectly.” – Some Very Wise Person
Our wedding was definitely not what we first imagined it would be. Everything we envisioned, from the church to the videographer, to the reception venue, to the number of guests and even the wedding date, did not go as planned. But those details were just that, details. Even if we had gotten married in a courthouse, I’d still be in cloud nine because I married my soulmate, Dodoi.
We originally planned to have our prep at my aunt’s house and then realized that humidity in June during El Niño was going to be a bummer, not only for the comfort of the entire entourage but could you even imagine the makeup artists going at it with sweaty faces as their blank canvass? And so we ended up booking rooms from separate hotels (part of the old school notion of you’re-not-supposed-to-see-each-other-until-the-actual-wedding). Hair and makeup was done by the lovely and bubbly China Lim and her glam squad. I wore a classic white button-down shirt from Uniqlo during the wedding prep for the classic, clean, chic look.
I literally became a Pinterest bride, had a whole board entitled Wedding, scoured for the trendiest wedding concepts, DIYs and really just being an excited bride slash own wedding planner. I enlisted the help of our friends and families in finding the right venues, vendors and other details; we were even blessed to have gotten some sponsorship on a few major and minor expenses as wedding gifts. Our custom-made wedding rings were placed in a charming wooden jewelry box I scouted at Unitop, our Bible was Dodoi’s which he previously received as a gift, the wooden rosary was from Islael and given by Dodoi’s sister, the coins were from my officemate which we placed in my parent’s old arrhae cage, and my shoes were 3-inch silver pumps from Zanea. I DIYed our wedding invites using pre-made paper pads from Invitation House and brown coin envelopes. Our lovely blooms were provided by our wedding stylist, D’interior Events Management, who also helped us look for the cutest bridal EVER! It was my vision, from the start of the planning stages, that we’d drive off to the sunset on a Volkswagen, and we got so much more than what we desired; our stylist got us this avocado green top-down Volkswagen, talk about making a statement.
I wore a dreamy yet simple wedding gown which I designed myself and was sewn by a local seamstress. The lace material was brought from Divisoria and the back of the gown is detailed with see through lace, which was cut to show a glimpse of my back but not low enough to be church-appropriate, and pearl buttons which run down until my derriere. It had a sweetheart neckline and off-shoulder straps that highlighted my neck and shoulders, a classic and sophisticated look. As for my dashing groom, Dodoi wore a simple gray vest, tailor-made for him by Ramil’s Tailoring, a silver-gray necktie, crisp white button-down shirt which he rolled the sleeves for a more laid-back look, and a hand-me-down Dockers gray chinos. He accessorized the look with a pair of Sunnies eyewear, and gray Milanos loafers.
Our entourage was comprised of the most amazing people in our lives. They weren’t just there for the ceremony, but were also part of the planning and execution, and we are truly blessed to have such wonderful friends and families surrounding us. The ladies didn’t wear matching bridesmaids dresses, in fact I told them to wear whatever they would be comfortable wearing for the wedding, and it was just a fortunate coincidence that the colors of their dresses coordinated with one another. As for the men, we just asked them to wear white button-down shirts and gray chinos with black neckties and we provided their suspenders.
This was what we imagined our wedding to be: small and intimate with just about 50 guests, in a romantic little chapel near the Twin Lakes Balinsasayaw and Danao. What actually happened: 200 invited guests with 150 guests who actually attended, in the Holy Family Chapel where my parents also exchanged vows. I then realized that we were fated to be married in the same spot as my parents.
I think the most upsetting change in our plans was when we had no choice but to change the date of our wedding. We were supposed to be married on our second anniversary, 13th of June. Everything was set months ahead but then we received a call from the hotel that they can no longer accommodate our reception booking because of changes in management. I mean wtf?! There was only less than two months before our wedding day (hyperventilating at that moment). When I got over the initial feelings of shock, anger and denial, we started hunting for the next best option right away, there was just no time to spare moping around. And then we found it: Beatitude Sanctuary Garden. But again there was a catch. We had to change our wedding day to book the venue, hence, we had our wedding last June 11 (by this time, I was just thinking “Kill me now!”). And because of the change on our wedding date, the videographer can no longer accommodate such date, so we had to find another option (I mean really, what else could go wrong?). Mercifully we found Mix Notion and John Kenneth Banjao for our video and photo coverage just in the nick of time.
Our concept to the wedding is a mix of shabby chic and rustic themes. I wanted a laid-back vibe with pastel colors, roses, baby’s breath, and twinkling lights and all the romance which our stylist definitely delivered.
The cake was absolutely a stunner (the flowers were edible and hand-made), and boy did it taste like a piece of heaven. Dodoi and I have decided, beforehand, to slice and share the cake to all our guests as part of the dessert so it was kind of befitting, yet kind of sad, that the cake didn’t hold long enough after we sliced through it due to the humidity and lack of electricity during the entire day of the wedding. And so everybody had a little taste of heaven for dessert. Shoutout to our very talented baker, Paula Montenegro, for making a masterpiece for our very special day.
There are only three moments during the entire wedding which I will forever treasure in my heart. First was when papa helped fix my gown making sure I don’t trip, before walking me down the aisle; I wasn’t really expecting his gesture because it was truly out of his character. The second moment was when I walked down the aisle and saw my groom, who was trying so hard not to tear up and miserably failing; it made me so emotional I had to compose myself half of the entire ceremony. And lastly, I will never forget the elation I felt when Dodoi first kissed me as his wife; truly the happiest moment of my life by far.
The date, the venue, the number of guests, genuinely did not matter during these moments. They didn’t matter because they were just details of the bigger picture. Even if I count everything that went astray from what we have planned, those wrongs could never outweigh the perfection of me finally being married to my one true love, my God’s gift, Dodoi.